How To Keep A Man In Love With You

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The last newsletter article dove into uncharted waters and charted the path that all men can take to keep their women in love with them so it’s only fair in the spirit of equality that I gave women the blueprint to keep their man that wants to be kept.

Please note that exceptions exist in all situations involving things and people. In this week's newsletter article, we will be discussing the general norms. Now that we have addressed this, let's get continue

Let’s begin!!!

MY THOUGHTS 🧠

As I established in the previous article, every human being is made up of 4 components (physical, emotional, mental and spiritual). And across the two genders

There are only two genders and anyone that claims otherwise is batshit crazy. Anyway, I digress. Across the two genders, the priority at which each aspect of their human make-up differs.

As a straight man, I can categorically say with all confidence that 99.99% of straight men prioritize their lives in the following order;

1.) Physical

2.) Mental

3.) Spiritual

4.) Emotional

Men are first physical beings. By physical I mean we give an unholy amount of priority to the visual aspects of our lives. We like to see first before anything else. This is why the first phrase that usually comes out of a man's mouth when his interest in a thing or situation is piqued is “show me”.

The next aspect of our lives we prioritise is the mental aspect. This aspect has 3 subcategories prioritised in order of relevance.

The first and major reason most men focus a lot on this area is that nowadays it takes “smarts” to make money. That’s it! it’s as simple as it gets.

Because in this world, money gives you access to power and freedom as a man. And power and freedom come with a lot of “options”

and by options, I mean a lot of big booty Latinas for our pleasure for those of you still lost.

We are savages.

But in our defence, what is life without “big booty Latinas”

The next sub-focus on the mental aspect of a man’s life other than making money is to learn about their various hobbies/interests and toys. Some men are car enthusiasts, others love football (or as Americans know it…soccer) others are golfers, some are comic book enthusiasts, some are Pokemon and baseball card connoisseurs, other men are into anime, and men like me are gamers and tech enthusiasts.

And the last category is about the news and updates that go on in his immediate environment/country that affects his ability to provide, protect and lead his family according to the vision he has for it. i.e. politics and tax laws/regulations.

The next aspect a man gives priority to is his spiritual life. This aspect doesn’t come naturally to men in my opinion because we allocate almost all (and in some men’s cases…all) of our priority to the first two aspects/components of our lives. Plus for most men, it’s hard to believe in a God you cannot see. This is why until a man has experienced God for himself (personal experience in a way and manner that he knows and acknowledges) he’d either half-ass his spiritual life or not be concerned about it at all.

The emotional aspect of a man’s life is usually non-existent. Because as a man, we grow up without needing to understand and process our emotions, so most adult men are clueless when it comes to understanding and being in tune with our emotions and how they affect us.

Because most men understand that being overly emotional is not beneficial for society. And I know this may come as a shock to women reading this but as a man, it’s hard to find a balance between understanding our emotions and staying composed. Instead of risking reacting emotionally to everything, we choose to embrace stoicism and keep our emotions under. Even though this action helps us navigate life with strength and avoid feeling overwhelmed, it keeps us underdeveloped emotionally.

THE GAMEPLAN ⛹🏾‍♂️

So, how do you keep your man in love with you? Easy! You do it by dealing with him according to the areas of his life he has placed priority on.

1.) Physical

So first things first, men are visual beings. This means if something is pleasing to look at, chances are…we will look. I know some women reading this may or may not like it but you have to keep yourself together. This means not letting yourself go by staying in shape, eating healthy, smelling nice and dressing nice when you’re around him, Especially if you’re married to him.

2.) Mental

You then deal with the mental area of a man’s life by bettering yourself mentally. Learn by reading books, listening to podcast episodes, watching youtube videos etc. Learn and improve yourself mentally, especially in money, business and investments. Also, learn things about his interests/hobbies.

I’m not saying you have to be a guru. I’m saying at least learn enough to be able to hold multiple decent conversations on them. Because of the priority, a man places on the mental area of his life, one of his greatest needs is mental stimulation. And if you’re not mentally stimulating enough for him, he’d go out and find people who are. Hopefully, that doesn’t lead him into the arms of any mentally stimulating big-booty latinas 😬

3.) Spiritual

As for the spiritual area of his life, the only way to go about handling this aspect is by actually practising the religion he practices. This means that if you’re both Christian, you should have and practice Christ-like behaviours and excellent Christian-faith building habits like reading your bible daily, praying alone, praying together, or praying for him etc. The same rules apply if she is a practising Muslim or jew.

P.S: Men love it when they know someone has their back especially spiritually. An area he knows he’s most likely deficient in. We appreciate it in ways women may never know.

4.) Emotional

On behalf of men globally, I apologise for our lack of emotional maturity.

Men are emotional creatures too even though they do not always show it. And as emotional creatures, they have emotional needs too. They have 2 core emotional needs which are admiration and peace.

Admiration means showing a man you respect, value and appreciate him and what he does. You respect your man the way he wants to be respected not the way you think he should be respected and you do it unconditionally. Even on the days, he doesn't behave respectfully.

Yes, you read that right. Because you would still want your man to love you unconditionally even on days you aren’t very lovable. The same thing applies here. You show a man you value and appreciate him by speaking his love language and showering him with compliments and praises for the things he does well and right.

We, men, are somewhat addicted to praise. The more you praise us for the things we do well, the more we seek out things to do well to receive more praise. Plus we men are rarely complemented by anyone.

I remember one time I was hungry and decided to stop at burger king to get a burger and some fries to eat. I took my order and sat down, the next thing a lady walked up to me and said the only reason she came was to tell me I looked handsome and she loved my shoes. This event happened during March in the year 2020 just before the pandemic and lockdown. I still remember it to this day. And yes I haven’t received any compliments since then (not that I’m actively searching for them anyway). I just used this as an example to buttress my point. We love compliments the same way you do because it makes us feel good about ourselves and happy.

The next core emotional need men require is peace A.K.A peace of mind. Ladies, it’s chaotic outside for us guys. You have no idea…trust me. And when we come home we just want to wind down and not think of anything and rest. The last thing we want to do is start a shouting match about whose turn it was to take out the garbage or how we haven’t fixed whatever it is we said we’d fix a week ago. Peace is so vital for men that they would not mind leaving you and going to the middle of nowhere with no technology just so they can have peace.

Here’s a simple trick when speaking with your man. Be very mindful of the timing of the conversation you want to have, the words you use and the tonality to use when saying those words.

If you’re his peace he’d always want to come home to you.

You’re welcome!!!

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