How To Keep a Woman In Love With You

WHAT’S UP, SCIENTISTS!!! 👨🏽‍⚕️

I know you saw the newsletter topic and thought “Finally, an answer to a question I’ve always wanted to know. So This is it, here is the age-long secret that has eluded the best of men for centuries.

You can’t. They cannot be kept. Thank you very much for opening this week’s newsletter article…until next time.

I’m joking…I’m joking,

Okay, enough with my shenanigans. Here is the real scoop. The only way to keep a woman in my humble opinion is by constantly dealing with her according to her psyche or “composition”. At least that’s how I’ve always done it. If you’re a bit confused…

RELAX!!!

MY THOUGHTS 🧠

Every person is made up of four components: emotional, physical, mental, and spiritual. However, the order of importance given to these components differs between men and women.

Now, when it comes to women, based on my experience and knowledge of romantic relationships, they prioritize their lives in the following order:

1.) Emotional

2.) Spiritual

3.) Mental

4.) Physical

hence this is a woman's psyche or “component” I am talking about.

Women are first emotional beings. They feel first before anything. The next aspect of their lives they give priority to is the spiritual aspect. It’s been widely accepted that women are more religious than men. Be it in the Christian community, or Muslim communities.

Even women who don’t practice any internationally recognised form of religion are into horoscopes, tarot readings and in not too rare cases nowadays…witchcraft. There is an aspect to a woman’s life that hungers for some sort of spiritual fulfilment. This is why pastors and religious teachers are respected and loved more by women, than men.

The next component of her life she gives priority to is her mental capacity. More specifically, the knowledge that strengthens her intuition on the different components of her life and work/career.

Then the last component she gives priority to is physical, A.K.A her sex, sex drive and sex life. Now I want to explicitly point out that it’s not as if women don’t care about sex or their sex lives…because they do. What I’m saying is that it’s an area of their life with the least priority.

Please note that exceptions exist in all situations involving things and people. In this week's newsletter article, we will be discussing the general norms. Now that we have addressed this, let's get continue

So, now that you know a woman’s components, here’s how to go about keeping her.

THE GAMEPLAN ⛹🏾‍♂️

As I said in the introduction, you keep a woman by treating or dealing with her according to her “composition” every day while maintaining your masculine frame. Here’s how you do it according to her composition;

1.) Emotional

Every day, make it a habit of speaking her primary and secondary love languages and simultaneously satisfying her emotional needs. I know what you’re thinking…isn’t that a lot of stress on your part? No, it’s not, because you will be working smart, not hard.

Every woman’s core emotional needs are; affection (which is a fancy word for saying “show me that you care about me”), undivided attention when you’re with her, and intimate conversations that centres on both your lives.

An excellent way to show your woman you care about her is by taking actions that speak her primary and secondary love languages.

As long as you’re taking actions that speak your partner’s love language and giving her undivided attention during conversations and when you are both physically together…you’re good.

For example, let’s say I have a woman in my life I want to keep and I’ve found out her primary and secondary love languages are words of affirmation and quality time, here’s how I’d go about handling her emotional side.

On most days during my lunch break from work, I’d chat with her and we’d talk about her day and the major *icks* she has experienced so far as I casually slip in sweet words of affirmation that show her I care about what she is talking about and her experiences during the day.

Now because I’m a busy man, the entire interaction would last about 20-ish minutes a day. I’d also make sure we speak or chat for about 30 minutes most days after work.

I'll also focus on having more meaningful talks with her about her goals, dreams, and fears. Specifically, I'll dedicate time on weekends, mainly Saturdays, for these conversations, lasting around one to two hours. You might be wondering how I’d be able to keep the conversation going for that long, but here's the exciting part: she will be the one leading the discussion. When women care about you, they naturally want to talk to you. Women share their thoughts and feelings to show affection. This means that the conversation might start with a structured premise in mind, but will quickly develop into talking about literally anything that comes up. All I need to do is to relax and enjoy the natural flow of the conversation.

And about twice a month I’d make sure we go out on date nights where we engage in fun activities that we both enjoy. I’d shuffle between activities that increase the rate of adrenaline like rollercoaster rides and slow, immersive activities like movies and actual dinners where all we do is talk. Or rather she’d talk and I’d be the one listening and asking follow-up questions 😅 , while casually slipping in words of affirmation that show her I care about her.

Also, throughout the date nights, I’d not bring out nor stare at my phone until it was either time to book an Uber to go home or pay the bills and give her all the attention. And most important of all, I’d do all this while maintaining a masculine frame (more on this later if enough people signal interest in the topic).

2.) Spiritual

The only way to go about handling this aspect is by actually practising the religion she practices. This means that if you’re both Christian, you should have and practice Christ-like behaviours and excellent Christian-faith building habits like reading your bible daily, praying alone, praying together, or praying for her etc. The same rules apply if she is a practising Muslim or jew. And if she’s neither, you better brush up on your astrology and energy/ law of attraction & vibrations expertise. If she is an atheist, you don’t need to worry about this area.

And on the off chance, she is an actual witch that practices witchcraft, and you can’t seem to let go of that “phat ass” because you’re an idiot…then I suggest you brush up on your knowledge of the dark arts and play a lot of Hogwarts Legacy…or do whatever it is witches and wizards do to bond and amuse themselves.

Goodluck

3.) Mental

You successfully handle this area of a woman by brushing up on your mental capacity. Learn new and interesting shit that applies to life that you can teach her. Women love it when their man teaches them stuff that improves their lives they never knew about before. So brush up on your financial, emotional, spiritual and life-hack knowledge.

4.) Physical

To excel in this aspect, adopt a two-pronged approach. Firstly, prioritize your appearance by staying in shape, embracing a stylish fashion sense, practising good hygiene, and maintaining regular grooming habits. Also, when it comes to clothing, opt for outfits that flatter your body type, boost your confidence, and ensure comfort. Avoid flashy logos from luxury brands that make you appear like a walking billboard.

Then when you are around your woman, engage in pleasant non-sexual physical touches like hugs, forehead kisses, and hand-holding.

This will drive up the oxytocin hormone levels in her and encourage trust, relationship building and most important of all…sexual arousal.

You’re welcome!!!

P.S.: If you want or need guided assistance to achieve the long-term goal of keeping your woman in love with you and happy, then I recommend getting what I call a love language cheat sheet and a relationship goal planner. I can create the 2 digital products and have them ready as soon as possible if enough people indicate interest which you can do here

STORIES THAT TOUCH 💔

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