Transform Your Love Life with the S.M.A.R.T.E.R. Relationship Formula

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Chike Oranye
May 21, 2023

Wagwan people,

Today I’d like to introduce you to a new concept that will take your love life to the next level. I call it the S.M.A.R.T.E.R. principle/formula.

I know some of you reading this think you have an idea of what the S.M.A.R.T.E.R. acronym stands for due to prior business knowledge but I promise you, you don’t.

Without wasting much of your time this Sunday afternoon, the S.M.A.R.T.E.R. principle stands for;

S - Shared Experiences

M - Mutual Respect

A - Accountability

R - Realistic Expectations

T - Trust

E - Empathy

R - Reciprocity

Now here’s what they mean in the context of romantic relationships and how you can apply this in your current relationship or marriage;

S – Shared Experiences:

Let's kick things off with the letter "S" in S.M.A.R.T.E.R., which stands for Shared Experiences. Picture this: you and your partner embark on epic adventures together, creating memories that will make your grandkids jealous! Shared experiences are the glue that binds couples together. Whether it's travelling to exotic places, cooking up a storm in the kitchen, or binge-watching your favourite TV shows, shared experiences ignite sparks and build a strong foundation by creating happy lasting memories you both can draw from.

M – Mutual Respect:

Now, let's dive into the "M" of S.M.A.R.T.E.R., which stands for Mutual Respect. Mutual respect means treating your partner like the amazing human being they are, even when they squeeze the toothpaste from the middle or snore like a chainsaw. It's about appreciating their quirks and embracing their flaws, all while maintaining a healthy balance between independence and togetherness.

A – Accountability:

Next up is the letter "A" in S.M.A.R.T.E.R., which reminds us of the importance of Accountability. Accountability means owning up to your actions, apologizing when necessary, learning from your mistakes and following through on your commitments/promises of positive change in the necessary areas.

T – Trust:

Ah, trust, the magical potion that keeps relationships alive and kicking. The letter "T" in S.M.A.R.T.E.R. represents Trust. Trust is the foundation upon which a strong relationship is built, like a sturdy house that withstands the fiercest storms. It's about believing in your partner's words and actions, knowing that they have your back no matter what. Trusting your partner is like embarking on a trust fall exercise, except you're falling into their arms, knowing they'll catch you every time.

E – Empathy:

In the realm of relationships, empathy reigns supreme. The letter "E" in S.M.A.R.T.E.R. embodies Empathy. It's the superpower that allows you to step into your partner's shoes, even when those shoes are two sizes too small or 5 sizes large. Empathy is the secret ingredient that transforms arguments into productive conversations, turning "me" into "we." It's about understanding your partner's emotions, offering support, and showing compassion in times of joy and sorrow.

R – Reciprocity:

Last but certainly not least, we have Reciprocity, the "R" in S.M.A.R.T.E.R. Imagine a dance where partners take turns leading and following, creating a harmonious rhythm that makes everyone's heart skip a beat. Reciprocity is about giving and receiving in equal measures, like exchanging high-fives after a successful teamwork challenge. It's a beautiful dance of love, where both partners put in effort, show appreciation, and create a balance that keeps the relationship thriving.

Until next time!!!

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