Examining the Top 10 Emotional Needs

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First of all, I know your face already went like this;

And you are probably thinking

“I signed up for the consistently excellent and sometimes contrarian romantic relationship and marriage insights”

And you’d be right to think that. As far as you are concerned all you’ve read so far is jargon.

Well, I hate to break it to you, but this is what your romantic partner probably thinks when about you when consistently don’t speak the languages that satisfy their emotional needs.

So…

But I’m not here to tell you just how awful you are, I’m here to help you get better.

There are 10 emotional needs in a spectrum of “human feelings” that matter in the grand scheme of things. These emotional needs affect the level of happiness and satisfaction an individual experiences in a romantic relationship or marriage with their respective partners. Each person (man and woman) has 5 core emotional needs.

Here’s the crazy part…these emotional needs are linked to our love languages. This means that by knowing someone’s love languages you can accurately deduce the 5 core emotional needs that go along with the person’s primary and secondary love languages.

MY THOUGHTS 🧠

The 10 core emotional needs on the “human feelings spectrum” are;

1.) Admiration

2.) Affection

3.) Intimate Conversations

4.) Family Commitment

5.) Domestic Support

6.) Financial support

7.) Honesty & Openness

8.) Recreational Companionship

9.) Sexual Fulfillment

10.) Physical attractiveness.

Now, I’d love to assume that these needs are self-explanatory but this is just me doing my “due diligence” and giving you the “explain it to me like I’m 5” breakdown;

Admiration: Wanting to be respected, valued, and recognized for what you do.

Affection: Needing hugs, kisses, and kind words to feel loved and cared for.

Intimate Conversations: Desiring deep and meaningful talks that bring you closer and help you understand each other better.

Family Commitment: Making your family a top priority and spending time and love on them.

Domestic Support: Helping with chores, childcare, and everyday tasks at home.

Financial Support: Assisting with money matters and making sure everyone feels secure and taken care of financially.

Honesty & Openness: Being truthful and sharing your thoughts and feelings without keeping secrets.

Recreational Companionship: Enjoying fun activities together and creating shared experiences.

Sexual Fulfillment: Having satisfying and enjoyable sexual experiences that create a strong emotional bond between you and your partner, A.K.A frequent orgasms on both sides.

Physical Attractiveness: Feeling good about your appearance, and being appealing to your partner. Also, being proud and physically attracted to how your partner looks too.

Depending on your gender, you already come with 3 core emotional needs from birth. Most women already have affection, family commitment and intimate conversations as core needs by default, while most men come with sexual fulfilment, physical attractiveness and recreational companionship as core emotional needs by default.

Now I know with everything there are exceptions. This disclaimer is here to acknowledge this fact.

Here’s how the 10 core emotional needs link to the 5 love languages. For the people reading this who don’t know, The 5 love languages are different ways that people show and feel love. They are:

Words of Affirmation: This means using kind words and compliments to show love.

Acts of Service: This means doing helpful things for someone to make them feel loved.

Receiving Gifts: This means giving and receiving meaningful presents to show love.

Quality Time: This means spending special time together, giving each other undivided attention.

Physical Touch: This means showing love through hugs, kisses, and other physical affection.

Now that you know the 5 love languages and 10 core emotional needs, how do they correlate? Here’s how;

Words of Affirmation: This love language can be linked to the core emotional needs of admiration, honesty & openness and family commitment. People who value words of affirmation often seek respect, recognition, and open communication within their relationships.

Acts of Service: Acts of service as a love language can align with the core emotional needs of domestic support and family commitment. Individuals who appreciate acts of service may prioritize assistance with household responsibilities and emphasize the importance of supporting and caring for their families.

Receiving Gifts: While receiving gifts may not directly correspond to specific core emotional needs, it can be associated with the need for physical attractiveness and family commitment, as thoughtful gifts can demonstrate care, attention, and commitment to loved ones.

Quality Time: Quality time as a love language can be related to the core emotional needs of intimate conversations, recreational companionship, and family commitment. People who value quality time often desire deep and meaningful conversations, shared experiences, and a strong commitment to their families.

Physical Touch: Physical touch as a love language can be connected to the core emotional needs of affection and sexual fulfilment. Individuals who prioritize physical touch often seek physical closeness, intimacy, and connection as expressions of love.

THE GAMEPLAN ⛹🏾‍♂️

Now that you know what emotional needs are and love languages, the first step is finding out your own emotional needs and love languages. You need to know how you like to show love and receive love.

The next step is to know your partners’ emotional needs that are high on their priorities list as well as their love languages. You can only do this by engaging in effective communication. You’re going to have to talk to your partner and engage in active and effective listening during the entire conversation.

When you know your partners’ emotional needs and love languages, the final step is to commit to meeting their core emotional needs and speaking their primary and secondary love languages consistently and as best as you can.

And be open to having your emotional needs met and love languages spoken to by your partner.

This way both love tanks belonging to you and your partner would remain continually full keeping the relationship in the “honeymoon phase”.

Remember to always remain calm and engage in excellent communication habits and listening patterns during times of disagreement. Always make sure there is an atmosphere of non-judgement, peace, love, commitment and understanding during communication.

Until next time!!!

STORIES THAT TOUCH 💔

I just discovered that my wife cheated during her vacation in April and to make matters worse, she returned to the same destination in June. Claiming the weather had ruined the first vacation 😭

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